Wednesday December 13th, 2017
Last week, our guest post identified some of the essential aspects of a healthy relationship: maturity, being yourself, open communication, and respect. We believe it’s equally important to be able to identify red flags that can indicate a relationship is unhealthy.
Here are a few things to look for that can help you determine if your relationship (or that of a friend’s) is unhealthy:
You feel pressured. Your partner is asking you to do things that cross the boundaries you have created based on your level of physical and/or emotional comfort. You may also feel pressured to attend certain social events or engage in activities where you feel uncomfortable.
You feel controlled. Your partner frequently monitors where you are, who you are talking to, and/or what you are doing. Decisions that you once made for yourself now feel like they are your partner’s to make (Ex: friends, clothing, etc.).
You consistently feel on edge or scared. You never know what mood your partner will be in and how they will behave towards you. They unnecessarily freeze you out, talk down to you, or threaten to harm you if you don’t cooperate with what they want.
If you are in a relationship where you feel pressured, controlled, or scared it’s important to get help and get out. Telling a trusted adult is a difficult, but crucial first step. If you are unsure of who to talk to, you can call Kids Help Phone to speak with a counsellor. You can also contact KW Counselling Services for a walk-in appointment or Carizon Family and Community Services.
You deserve to be treated with love and respect. Don’t settle for anything less.