International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women
Saturday November 25th is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. While some violence is out of a woman’s control, in many situations/life stages she can make choices that reflect her comfort level and support her boundaries.
Boundaries are a way in which you can identify where you feel comfortable. You are in control of creating the guidelines and limits for how you want others to treat you. It’s important to know your boundaries before entering into,and while you are in, a relationship.
Your partner may cross your boundaries without your consent. Consent is to give your permission or to agree for something to happen or be done. There are two sides to consent: to ask for and to give permission. It can be hard to say no to someone you like, but we need to give a relationship time and understand that “no” is always an option. When an individual’s answer is not respected by their partner, emotional abuse and/or physical violence can occur. It is important to understand that if someone is drunk, high, or asleep, consent cannot be given. Be sure to communicate your consent and boundaries to your partner, and be ready to listen to theirs.
Food for Thought:
Is someone pressuring you? If so, what are they really saying about how they feel? What about respect? Do they have your best interests in mind? Who can you turn to for help?
Our centre staff and volunteers would love to support you. We also are able to refer you to other community resources.
Sexual Assault Support Centre of Waterloo Region: http://www.sascwr.org/
Family Counselling Centre of Cambridge and North Dumfries: http://fcccnd.com