For Him

Pregnant?

If you have sex there is always the possibility a pregnancy may occur.  If you think your girlfriend or partner may be pregnant, we are here to help. Please call us at 519-620-0204.

Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be pregnant, but both of you are affected by a possible positive test result. Regardless of your relationship in the future you will have to
work this out together.

Talk about it. Express yourself honestly.  It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear, but make sure she knows she is not alone.

The test result is positive…

Don’t bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation.
You need to work together as a team.

Don’t forget. You have a very active role in this situation, listen to input as well as give your
thoughts. Seek help from people you trust, and talk to more than one person as well as your
partner or girlfriend. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you, only increases the stress.

Gather all the facts. Get all the information, and seek help so you can help make a decision that
works for both of you.

Whoever is pregnant has the final say; your partner is the one who makes the final decisions regarding the pregnancy. This does not mean you have to be silent, or not involved with discussions about your futures. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get information.

What’s Next?

Too often, the ‘guy’ has been characterized as someone who fails to accept responsibility, only
offers ultimatums, or simply sneaks out of town. That stereotype is only accurate if you fail to step
up to the plate and learn more about the role afforded to you under current laws and processes.

Take a look at these four situations where you need to know your rights and responsibilities.

Parenting

  • Am I required to pay child support?
  • What custodial (when do I see my child) rights do I have as the father?
  • How is the situation affected if paternity (is the baby really mine) is questionable?

 

Adoption

  • Does the province require my signature to complete the adoption process?
  • Can I participate in the selection of the adoptive couple?
  • In an open adoption, am I able to maintain contact along with the birth mother?

 

Abortion

  • Am I required to assist with the expense of an abortion?
  • Do I have any rights if I do not support the decision to terminate?
  • Can I force my partner to terminate the pregnancy if I’m not ready to parent?

Parenting

Dad’s Matter- support group for young dads

This weekly educational support group for dads is facilitated by experienced young fathers.  Dads learn the importance of responsible fatherhood.  This 10 week program is typically offered in the spring and fall. Call Centre to enroll.

Care Closet- material support

Our Care Closed is stocked with gently used infant and maternity clothes and other baby items.  These items have been donated to the Centre. Clients can visit the closet once a month. We also provide wipes, diapers and formula for those in our program.

Paternity Testing

The Cambridge Pregnancy Resource Centre has information relating to Paternity Testing,
and can also give you resources for further information and help. We have the support you
need and the confidentiality you want.

If you want to know what rights and responsibilities you have as the father, we can put you in
touch with professionals who can assist you with your questions.

Post-Abortion Recovery Education

Following an abortion, many women may feel empty and alone.  The memories of an abortion can be difficult to face and women may experience anger, depression and loneliness.

It is not uncommon for men to feel these same emotions after a pregnancy is terminated.

Staff and volunteers at the centre have extensive training on the impact of abortion and the issues individuals face in recovery following an abortion. The centre has the desire to see clients find healing, hope and wholeness.

In this program individuals meet one on one with a trained support worker. All meetings are confidential.

Call the centre for more information about this program.